As a mom I have watched other parents and sometimes I just sit there and I wonder why it is they are acting that way towards their children. This is not about abuse.
I have seen parents carrying around wipes, sanitizer, and spare clothes for their children. Some which can be justified for the right reasons but other’s not so much.
I know we all want those picture perfect moments of our children where they are nice and clean. Their hair has been done, they are wearing nice clean clothes and have no food all over their face. I mean who doesn’t? But when do you stop and take a step back to realize you are putting a show on and your children are the stars.
I let my son play in the dirt and pick up worms. Why? Because he is a child. He should play in dirt and pick up worms. Why shouldn’t he? Why should his face and clothes always be so clean? Why can’t he just a be a child? Why should I have him all suited up for a day of play? I want my son to have these photos to look back on and laugh.
I do not want all of my sons photos to be the ones where mommy asked for a smile. Like the one above, is all my son. 100% happiness because he had the pleasure of eating chocolate pudding and there was no reason it couldn’t go everywhere!
This is my son Jaiden and on September 14th 2009 I let him eat pudding in his high chair in my living room (tan high chair, tan couches and tan carpet), why? Because the pudding all over the high chair and floor (never hit the couch) could never make me angry when that is one of the most amazing smiles I have ever seen!
Those items are just like my son. They can be cleaned up. Yes my apartment was a mess which just showed that someone lived there. Yes, I had toys and snacks everywhere which showed that a child lived there.
I have no shame if my son leaves the house and has a chocolate mustache because he was drinking chocolate milk. He is a child and he should be dirty. He should be a loud to have fun.
Why must we get so upset over clothes becoming dirty in a 2-year-old. I mean, they are 2. Do you really expect them to stay clean? I know I don’t. Granted, it would be nice if we didn’t have to soak their clothes in Tide before putting them in the wash but it is not the way the world should work.
Kids are meant to be kids and we should let them have that because one day we are going to be in our parent shoes while our children are going to be in the shoes we once wore. We will be reminding them to be kids and enjoy it while they are in a rush to grow up.
And what is with the hand sanitizer? I can understand using it for some moments but your children should get use to germs. I am no doctor but I can guess that my son rarely gets sick because he is building his immune system because his body is getting us to germs since I wasn’t always right there with sanitizer.
Is forcing my son to sit and keep the pudding in his mouth and not all over worth NOT seeing that smile? In my opinion, No. Because this is a real smile. A smile that is only seen when someone is truly happy and free. I did not stand there with the camera asking him to smile. I didn’t stand there and say let’s try that again, ‘Give me your biggest smile!!’.
I gave my son pudding and he made a mess, I grabbed my camera because this is a memory I want to remember and a memory I want my son to have! I mean look at the baby. He is so happy just because he was making a mess.
Why must we deny our child that happiness? So we can have clean carpet? So we don’t have to take the cover off the chair? So we don’t have to spend an hour cleaning all the pudding off of the carpet? How can we compare an hour of our time to do a few extra mommy duties to seeing a smile so genuine?
He was so happy! I love when I see this smile! I don’t get to see it has often now that Jaiden is older but when I do my heart melts. He is the love of my life and I would do anything just to be able to see him smile and if that means cleaning up a huge pudding mess then I guess I better put on my pudding cleaning gloves and get to scrubbing. This smile is worth so much more than it may appear to others.
Remember to just let your kids be kids. They are going to make a mess, just as we did. Let them! I know sometimes it can be frustrating! I know all to well! I tell my son all the time to not play in this one spot of our room and he always does and stuff is always being split because he wont listen.
But don’t make your kids sit in place because you don’t want them running around the house, don’t make them feel they did something wrong because their face or shirt is dirty. They are children. Let them be because one day they will be adults and you are going to wish you could turn back the hands of time and just let them be.
Oh No!!! The pudding made it to the tub wall…. What am I to do now???
That is right, I can just wipe it up with the rest of my house but for now I am going to sit here and enjoy my son playing in the tub and getting all cleaned! He had a blast. He took off his own diaper and played with his toys under the water. He kept his smile going and you know what, I was happy to stay up and clean up the mess because now I have these memories! And these are priceless! Something worth so much more than some spots on the carpet.
After a long day of eating pudding and playing in it this is what I ended up with. A super tired baby laying on a pillow still covered in cheese curls. But it is all good because my baby is happily passed out after a day of fun with pudding!
There is nothing more special then allowing you child to be a child and having those messy memories!
I would never change that mess or smile for anything!
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